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Thank you for the interview, Lilishka.
For my closing thoughts, I would like to extend one of your questions and speak about happiness. On my birthday I had a conversation with an amazing person, we briefly touch on what means to be happy. Many people tend to forget the balance of life and what means to be happy, often they look at material things and forget about everything else.
Sadly we're really not wired for happiness. Natural selection only really cares that we live and procreate and our mind kind of deceives us with a process called “miswanting”.
Firstly, we all have these intuitions about the types of activities we should be doing to feel better, but many of those intuitions are just wrong and this is one of the most frustrating aspects of the mind. Consider the case of money, it gives us access and while it facilitates our life, being happy is much more than having money. More money won't make you happier if you already have enough for your expenses. The same also goes for work, lazer, and everything else.
Secondly, we have a propensity to think subjectively, which is another irritating aspect of the mind. We often make comparisons and "setting a reference point". We frequently contrast our possessions with those of other people: we contrast our holdings, our roles, our access, and even the quantity of what we partake in. And it's an issue because it means that even if we are objectively doing well in life, we will still feel inferior as long as someone else is succeeding.
Lastly, our tendency to get accustomed to things is something called "hedonic adaptation". It's wonderful when you first have an experience but eventually, you start to get used to it. It implies that with time, things stop having the same impact on our enjoyment. Hedonic adaptation also has an additional flaw which results in a prejudice known as the "impact bias" in our judgments. We believe that positive events will have a significant and long-lasting impact on our happiness, but the research says otherwise.
So, how can the Eco community be more happy?
Every study that has been done on happy people indicates that they are more social. They spend a lot of time physically interacting with others and truly value spending time with friends and family.
We simply overestimate how satisfying a social interaction can be but simple straightforward interactions in real life, especially in real-time, can greatly enhance our well-being. Doing nice things for other community members and attempting to become slightly more other-oriented is an action that has a significant impact on our happiness.
We frequently believe that taking care of ourselves is the key to happiness, but happy individuals are much more other-oriented.
The Ecommunity needs to rewire their happiness, alter their thought patterns, adopt a mindset of focusing on our blessings, and increase their altruistic efforts for others. If we know the right things to do and actually do them, our levels of happiness can be substantially changed. We should all move forward together and encourage one another because… We are one.